Some people are surprised to hear that women would book a Sensual Massage, after all, most women can find sex quite easily by walking into a bar or these days using a dating App. But, a sensual massage is far more than just an erotic experience...
First and foremost a good Sensual Massage is a proper full body massage. treatments provide relaxation and a feeling of well being, as well as (just) providing a release.
Perhaps more importantly, many other options available don't always guarantee a good experience. They can come with complications, and typically mean considering someone else’s needs and agenda as well as your own.
By contrast, a sensual massage with a professional, in a safe and controlled environment, is all about you. There is no need to consider anyones needs or satisfaction other than your own.
Men have long had many options for Sensual Massage, but mens motivation for Sensual Massage typically differs from womens, often fociusing on the 'Happy Ending'. Men also tend to book when they are feeling the need for release in the moment, while women tend to plan ahead.
Women may book a sensual massage for a combination of reasons, and their motivations can be deeply personal and varied. Some common reasons include:
I am stressed and/or tense and want an unconditional orgasmic release.
If you're feeling stressed or tense, focusing on practices that promote overall well-being—both physical and emotional—can be incredibly beneficial. A holistoc approach can be bennificial, involving self-care, professional services, and intimate experiences, the goal should be to help you feel more relaxed, grounded, and connected to yourself.
The desire for physical and emotional release, including through orgasmic experiences, can be a natural response to feeling overwhelmed or disconnected from your body. A Sensual Massage can provide a safe and reliable way to achieve this that works for some.
Difficulty reaching orgasm, anorgasmia / situational anorgasmia.
Difficulty reaching orgasm, or anorgasmia, is a common issue for many people, and it can be situational (happening in specific circumstances) or more generalized (happening most of the time). Understanding the possible causes and approaches to address this can help you find ways to improve your sexual experience and overall satisfaction. While a Sensual Massage is not a miricle cure for anorgasmia, in the right settings it can avoid some of the possible blockers. There is some more information in my blog Anorgasmia in Women.
Curiosity and satisfying a fantasy.
Curiosity and the desire to explore fantasies are natural and healthy aspects of sexuality. Many people feel a strong drive to satisfy their fantasies, whether it involves exploring different sensations, role-playing, or trying new experiences. Engaging with these desires can lead to greater self-understanding, sexual satisfaction, and deeper intimacy with oneself or a partner. A Sensual Massage can be one such fantasy and/or engaging with a professional may provide other possibilities that can be harder to satisfy within a traditional relationship.
Lack of sexual stimulation in my relationship.
Experiencing a lack of sexual stimulation in a relationship can be challenging, but it is also an opportunity for growth and deeper connection. If you have tried and failed to address this within your relationship, you may want to look elsewhere for fullfilment. A Sensual Massage from a professional can be one way to do this. It can offer a safer and more reliable outcome while also being less complicated than some other options.
Recently my libido has increased considerably.
An increase in libido can happen for various reasons, and it’s great that you’ve noticed this change in yourself. Possible Reasons for Increased Libido include:
Hormonal Changes: Fluctuations in hormone levels can boost libido, sometimes linked to pregnancy, pre/post menopause or medication.
Improved Physical or Mental Health: Positive changes in your overall health, such as regular exercise, improved diet, or reduced stress, can have a direct impact on sexual desire.
Emotional Well-being: Feeling emotionally connected or secure in your relationship(s), or even feeling a sense of personal empowerment, can increase your libido. Positive changes in mental health, such as overcoming depression or anxiety, can also contribute.
Life Transitions or Personal Growth: Experiencing personal development, achieving goals, or entering new phase of life can lead to heightened sexual energy.
Widows Fire: A specific and now well documented form of life transition that often occurs after becomong a widow(er). Read more about this phenomenon in my blog entitled Widows Fire - is it a real thing?
Increased Arousal or Sensual Exploration: Reading, watching, or experiencing something new and exciting, such as erotic material or engaging in more sexual exploration, can trigger an increase in sexual desire.
Guilt/Morality/Shame around sex.
Feeling guilt, shame, or confusion around sex is very common. It can stem from a variety of sources including but not limited to upbringing, cultural or religious beliefs, or societal expectations. These feelings can affect your relationship with your body, desires, and even your sense of self-worth. Understanding and addressing these emotions can help you cultivate a healthier and more fulfilling relationship with your sexuality. Sensual Bodyworks is a safe and discreet space to relax and enjoy the pleasure of full body sensual massage without judgement, expectation or obligation
Letting go of control and trusting others with it.
Letting go of control and trusting others can be a challenging but transformative experience. Trust involves vulnerability, and the fear of losing control often comes from a desire for safety and predictability. However, learning to let go of control can deepen your connections, reduce stress, and lead to more fulfilling experiences. If visiting for this reason it is good to first understand why you seek control and take small steps perhaps starting with the Relax massage..
Recovering from sexual aggression/abuse.
Recovering from sexual aggression or abuse is a deeply personal and challenging journey. It involves processing emotional pain, rebuilding a sense of safety, trust, and reclaiming control over your body and life. While the path to healing looks different for everyone, there are steps and resources that can support your recovery and help you regain a sense of wholeness and empowerment.
Working with a therapist who specialises in trauma, particularly sexual trauma, can provide a safe, nonjudgmental space to process your experience. Trauma therapy modalities including EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), or somatic experiencing can be highly effective.
Sensual Massage itself is not a therapy for trauma as such and I would not recommend it until you have of sought help from a trauma therapist, but it can be a useful stepping stone later on to rebuild confidence.
Lack of skill/knowledge by myself and partner.
A lack of sexual skill or knowledge in yourself or your partner is common and can sometimes lead to misunderstandings, dissatisfaction, or frustration for both of you. Developing sexual knowledge and skills can strengthen intimacy, improve communication, and lead to more fulfilling experiences for both of you. There are many ways to do this both with and without a partner. A Sensual Massage can help exploration and discovering what you enjoy and focusing on pleasure not intercourse.
I am on holiday/business so free to explore my erotic needs.
Being on holiday or a business trip, where you're away from your usual routine, can offer a unique opportunity to explore your desires and erotic needs in a setting that feels more freeing and open. Whether you're looking for solo exploration, connecting with a partner, or meeting new people, a Sensual Massage can be one way to explore.
Postmenopausal and still very sexual and/or my partner is not.
Experiencing strong sexual desires postmenopause is natural, and many women remain highly sexual well into later stages of life. However, it can sometimes be challenging if a partner's libido doesn't align with your own, especially if they have less sexual interest or energy. This mismatch can lead to feelings of frustration or disconnection.
Convenience and self-care for busy professionals who don’t want a relationship.
For busy professionals who don't have the time, energy, or desire for a traditional relationship, a Sensual Massage can be an appealing option for both self-care and convenience. Sensual Massage can offer a private, non-committal way to indulge in relaxation and intimacy without the emotional complexities or time investment of a relationship. A Sensual Massage might be the perfect fit for those seeking a balance between self-care and erotic pleasure.
Separated/Divorced/Widowed, wanting a sexual release but not ready for relationship.
After separation, divorce, or the loss of a partner, it's entirely normal to still have sexual desires while not feeling ready for a new relationship. Navigating this phase of life can involve a delicate balance between emotional healing and fulfilling your physical needs. Whether you're prioritising your well-being, taking time to heal, or simply not interested in commitment right now, a Sensual Massage can be one option to meet your needs.
I have cultural or religious restrictions and I need a safe place to explore my sexuality.
Navigating sexuality within the context of cultural or religious restrictions can be challenging, especially if you feel the need to explore your desires while maintaining respect for your beliefs. Many people in similar situations face the struggle of balancing their personal sexual needs with the values they hold. A Sensual Massage can provide a safe and private space to explore your sexuality, and crucialy ensuring that your journey is fulfilling while aligned with your personal boundaries.
Exploration of sexual practices as yet untried or unwanted by my partner.
Exploring sexual practices that are new to you or haven’t been part of your relationship can be both exciting and delicate, especially if your partner isn't interested or willing to try certain things. Sensual Massage may be a way to satisfy your sexual curiosity and desires.
Poor body image and lack of sexual self-esteem.
Poor body image and a lack of sexual self-esteem can significantly impact how you feel about yourself and your sexual experiences. These issues often manifest in feelings of insecurity, discomfort, and a reluctance to explore sexual desires or intimacy, both solo and with a partner. Improving your body image and sexual self-esteem is a gradual process that involves self-acceptance, mindfulness, and self-compassion.
A sensual massage can potentially help with poor body image and a lack of sexual self-esteem by creating a space where you can experience touch in a safe, non-judgmental, and accepting environment. While it isn’t a cure-all, here are several ways in which sensual massage can contribute to improving body image and sexual self-esteem:
Experience Non-Judgmental Touch: Sensual massage allows you to experience your body through touch without the pressure to perform or look a certain way.
Focus on Sensation, Not Appearance: A sensual massage encourages you to focus on how your body feels rather than how it looks.
Feeling Safe and Accepted: For people with body image issues, a sensual massage can provide a safe, accepting environment where the emphasis is on relaxation, trust, and comfort.
Letting Go of Control: Allowing yourself to be vulnerable and surrendering control to the massage therapist can help you let go of self-consciousness.
Promote Body Confidence: When you experience pleasure through touch, it can create positive associations with your body.
Learn to Receive Pleasure: For some people, poor body image can create feelings of undesirability or a belief that they don’t deserve pleasure.
I want my partner to watch me have a sensual massage (cuckold massage).
The idea of having your partner watch you receive a sensual massage, often referred to as a cuckold massage, can be an exciting and intimate experience for couples who enjoy exploring power dynamics, voyeurism, or kink. This type of experience can bring excitement, trust, and a deeper connection into your relationship if approached with open communication and clear boundaries. A Sensual Massage with a therapist can provide a safe and discrete place to do this with the needs of both of you respected and boundaries respected. Find out more about this in my blog What is Cuckolding.
I want my partner to give me a 4-hands massage with the masseur.
A variation on a cuckold massage, a four-hands massage, where both your partner and a masseur work together to provide a synchronised massage. It can be a deeply relaxing and intimate experience.
I want to explore my bisexuality with a male & female masseur couple.
Exploring your bisexuality through a sensual experience with a male and female masseur couple can be an exciting and liberating way to connect with your desires and is a common fantasy for many women. It allows you to explore your bisexulaity in a way that for some feels more comfortable that seeing a female masseur only. It's important to find the right couple and be clear about your expectations and boundaries.
I want to feel desired and dominated (sensual domination).
Exploring sensual domination can be an exciting way to embrace feelings of desire and power exchange. This can be experienced in Sensual Massage sessions or taken further with Sensual Surrender sessions. See the sister site dedicated to this. https://www.sensualsurrender.co.uk
Conclusion
The reasons for women seeking out sensual massages vary greatly from person to person, and a respectful, professional environment is essential to ensure the experience aligns with an individual's desires and boundaries.
If you would like to discuss further, I offer an introductory call without cost of obligation to book.